Tuesday 4th April 2023 Don't ask why - how to avoid shame, develop emotional literacy and get useful answers. Cat Jolleys catjolleys.com When a recent, peaceful sit in the garden alone, for 5 minutes and pretend it's Spring in Manchester was interrupted by the primal scream of my 11 year old, swiftly followed by the urgent hushed tones of DON'T TELL HER from his regretful and panicking 14 year old brother, my pre frontal cortex did not behave itself. Decades of teaching, acres of training in Restorative Practice and parenting for a long 16 years went out the window and my informed response to the 14 year old was a screeched WHY DID YOU DO THAT? Yep. I asked him that. Yep. You guessed it, he didn't know. Yep. You guessed it, it was the 11 year old's fault. Yep. You guessed it, I got no useful information. Yep. You guessed it, a harmonious repair and return to my garden relaxing, was a long way off. for a great il...